Brain Chemistry Chronicles: The Hidden Face of Bad Brain Chemistry

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

The Hidden Face of Bad Brain Chemistry

At 4:30 this morning I woke up, as I usually do, but was unable to fall back to sleep. I remembered that my mother is once again threatening to leave the nursing home and move back in with my sister, despite the fact that she is well cared for in a very nice home. Even she admits it's a nice home, which is a big admission for her. Then I remembered all the other times over the years that she and my father and my sister have made terrible decisions. Of course, when that would happen I'd be angry and frustrated because I care about them and the pain they go through when things go wrong. I always hope they will listen to me or learn from their mistakes, but it seems as if they seldom do. They refuse to plan ahead or anticipate the consequences of their decisions until it's too late and the die has been cast.

Ah well, it's not as if I've never made a bad decision. I do know, though, that many bad decisions are the result of bad brain chemistry. For instance, when I'm in the throes of depression or fear or rage, I just want out of it, and will do anything to make a change to my mood. In the past, I would change my mood by changing my life--quit my job, move to a new state, etc. I've since learned that all I needed to do was make the bad brain chemistry go away. And making it go away is simple--I just do some scanning activity, such as playing Solitaire. Exercise helps too. Or writing, as I'm doing now.

I can't control other people, and I guess I don't really want to. I just want them to know what I know--that brain chemistry is controlling them, but they can do something about it. They can help themselves before they do something they'll regret. They can get a handle on bad brain chemistry.

Of course, knowing what to do and doing it are two different things. Rage is a manifestation of bad brain chemistry that's particularly difficult to control, I've found. When I'm in a rage, I lash out before I can remember that it's just bad brain chemistry, that it's a response to fear, and that how I'm about to respond--yell at my boss or pass on a curve, for instance--is probably way over the top and may be quite risky.

How to keep from letting bad brain chemistry rule? Recognize it for what it is. Don't be fooled by the disguise. What looks like righteous indignation may really be craven fear. What seems like a rational decision based on facts is underneath an irrational decision based on bad brain chemistry and trumped up evidence. Be suspicious of speed. Most decisions don't have to be made immediately, so what's the hurry?

Again, not so easy when the mood is upon me. But I keep working on it. And I'll keep posting my progress here.

1 comment:

jostacloJune 19, 2011 at 12:48 AM
Good info and reflections on dealing with it.
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About this blog . . .

I created this blog as a place to write about my day to day struggles with what I call bad brain chemistry. In discussing those struggles, I also share my theories about bad brain chemistry and how its effects can be mitigated.

I started this project about 20 years ago, when depression and other bad moods were making my life miserable. A man I met during that time (now my husband) convinced me that I had to change; a therapist who offered medication scared me into finding a way to change. The result was my theory of brain chemistry, which goes beyond merely labeling mood disorders as physical phenomena and finding medication to fix them. I seek to explain bad brain chemistry in a way that shows the disorder to be rational and naturally human, and dealing with it something that a human can do through rational thought.

As I go along with this blog, I'll talk more about this theory and how I think people who have this condition tend to deal with it.

You're welcome to join me!

My Theory of Bad Brain Chemistry, Part I

My theories are based on how my mind works, but I think that I'm not alone, that other people share this problem with brain chemistry that doesn't work well in the modern world. My idea is that the way my brain works was advantageous at some point in the history of humanity. People like me, hyperalert people, were useful to human society because they were extremely aware of their environment.

In a situation where people are in constant danger of being devoured by predators, or attacked by human enemies, those who are hyperalert make good scouts, good watchers, good guards. Also useful to people who must hunt for food every day in order to eat are those who are good at seeing animal prey, noticing and remembering their patterns, their behavior, their defenses, their smell. And those who know how to find edible plants or other important items such as reeds or flints or underground sources of water will also be valued by their group.

Unfortunately, in modern society (especially middle class Western society), there's less need for hyperalert people because there's less danger from predators. And there's very little need to hunt down food or water or tools in one's surroundings--we can simply go to a store to get all those things, or even better, have them brought to us.

In this situation, being hyperalert is not only no longer an advantage; it seems instead a disadvantage. In fact, it's often thought of as a disability instead of a highly valued ability. I have only to cite the disruptive effect of hyperalertness on the modern elementary classroom to make my point. What has been termed ADD--attention deficit disorder--is to me hyperalertness, a condition of the brain that is not so much an inability to pay attention, as it is an inability to stop paying attention.

And it is this condition of hyperalertness, I believe, that can lead to depression, anger and other moods that make life quite difficult for many people, including me. What was once good brain chemistry is now deemed bad and in need of fixing.